Thanksgiving is over, the turkey decorations are put away, and the family I nanny for has begun decorating for Christmas. Their mom asked me to come over before they got home from school to “get things ready for the maid when she comes tomorrow.” I laughed at this, of course, because I find it hilarious that their house gets to the point where they need someone to pre clean before their maid, whose job is to clean, comes in.
They took a vacation last week, and I knew that I was going to come to their house presented with one of two situations today. 1) The house was going to look like a bomb went off, with their stuff everywhere and bags halfway unpacked or 2) A still mainly-packed up house, with everything still in their suitcases.
I came over to the first situation. 3 loads of laundry to fold, clothes all over the kids’ bedroom floors, and the worst - Christmas decorations halfway put up, sitting in boxes, and the remnants of pieces of the fake evergreen all over the floor.
I vacuumed up all of it, which took 3 passes, and had to re-set up their Christmas village. The cats had jumped up and pulled pieces of it off onto the floor and knocked the majority of the little people over.
I was then sent to the dry cleaners and to the grocery store, and I have hit an all time low, guys. The guy at the checkout line made a comment about how often I come there. The answer is confusing, yet simple: The people I nanny for leave a grocery list, I go and buy the items, and then their mom calls me 2 hours later and says, “Oops, I have to add a few more things”, so I come back, then on my way home, I oftentimes swing by and pick up a few things for myself. The cashier was nice about it, but I was completely embarrassed - it’s really that bad that even the employees have noticed how often I am in there.
Running errands for other people wears my patience like no other - and I make these peoples’ lives SO easy. I make the kids lunch, cook their dinner, get them home from school, and overall just..am their mom, minus the whole giving them the sex talk and hounding them about their grades. I have grown to love the kids, though, and really do enjoy my time with them - even though they are completely helpless without my guidance.
They are 14 and almost 13 now. Do you all nanny for older kids? Do they ask you questions about the opposite sex, and other things that they should be asking their parents? The boys have gotten really comfortable and ask a lot of questions, and I’m thinking that things may get personal really quickly if I’m not careful.
Thanks for reading. Keep calm, and nanny on!
A good talk today with a friend made me realize that the laziness in this world is what makes people’s lives so mediocre.
Are your kids that you nanny for lazy? Are you expected to do everything for them?
For example, mine are 12 and 14, and I still make their beds. They do not know how to do laundry. They cannot cook.
All because they aren’t told to.
What are you in your nannying job requirements? Do you worry about your kids growing up and not knowing how to do anything for themselves? Because I do.
Hey, nanny friends. I have a question for you.
When you drive around other people’s kids, do you charge a nominal fee? Do you talk to the parents of those kids? How do you deal with the liability of driving the kids of strangers around?
I feel like, since I am employed only by my boss, that there should be an additional contract/fee for driving around other people’s kids. It’s an extra distraction in the car, extra weight in the car, and a whole lot more liability. If something were to happen, heaven forbid, like a wreck where I was completely not at fault, then my boss wouldn’t have a case against me because they hired me to drive their kids. But driving the kids of some stranger really rattles me.
The boys basketball practices are back into full swing, which means I am constantly carting around them and their carpool friends.
Do any of you other nannies constantly have to drive around other people’s kids? Do you charge more for driving those other kids?
It really bothers me when I find out that I am consistently driving around a kid whose mom is a stay at home mom. I thought that was the point of mom staying at home - so she can take care of her kids.
Yesterday the boys mom texted me and told me that I needed to take them to get their “second shot” after school. I had no idea what even the first show was, but I said “okay” and proceeded to do so.
When I asked the kids what shot they were getting, they didn’t know. I had my suspicions but I didn’t want to make assumptions.
When I got them to the office, the secretary said that their mom didn’t make an appointment for them, so I needed to know for sure what shot it was that they needed. So I went outside, called their mom, and told her the situation. I asked what shot it was, and she goes “It’s the shot that they are recommending for all 12 and 13 year olds to get. It’s a series of three shots. I think it’s the ones for HPV.”
I think my jaw hit the concrete. Doctors are now encouraging kids who are 12 and 13 to get a shot to prevent an STD?!
Not only am I disgusted with the medical professionals for recommending that children get these shots, but I am in pure shock that their mother didn’t know exactly what the shots were for. She wasn’t sure what was being injected into her adolescent’s bodies, and had no idea what the risks were from this series of horrendous shots.
I am against the Gardisil shots for many reasons:
1) It basically encourages kids to have unprotected premarital sex. Thinking that they are “protected” from contracting HPV (and for girls, cervical cancer) can make them careless.
2) The shots are known to be extremely painful. My heart broke for the boys when I saw their faces as they injected this extremely painful, poisonous medicine.
3) The doctors do not do their duties to educate parents and kids on the risks of receiving it.
When the shot first came out, my pediatrician recommended it to me. She was very straightforward with me and told me the purpose, and I politely said, “No thank you.” When that wasn’t enough, she turned to my mother and said, “Mom, what do you think? Don’t you want your daughter to be protected from an STD that could lead to a fatal cancer?”
My mother looked at me, sitting there with my purity ring on, then looked at the doctor. She said, “I am very proud of and support my daughter in her decision to not engage in premarital sex. I will not, under any circumstances, allow you to inject a medication that could be potentially harmful, especially since this is a new vaccine and you don’t yet know the possible consequences.”
I am so happy my mother was an advocate for me on this.
Since the shot was released in 2006, hundreds of girls have died from it. There are hundreds of thousands of others who have had permanent side effects.
Had their mom told me what I was taking them for, I may have been in the position to quit my job. I cannot believe the ignorance people have toward things like vaccines. 90% of HPV viruses CURE THEMSELVES. And the vaccine doesn’t stop you from contracting every strain. And nature is smarter than us - the virus will eventually mutate into something that we haven’t yet figured out, and people will contract that, too.
I just took a shortened vacation to get back in time to pick up the kids from school tomorrow.
Their mom is already telling me I need to do groceries, laundry, dishes, etc. These people literally do not do any housekeeping on their own - I do it all myself.
Do any of you nannies ever get run down and just not want to go to work? I get so tired of doing my own housework and then having to come to their house and do it again.
Bentley came home today and grabbed his iPad to show me his grades.
He said this is the first time in his life he has gotten straight A’s and he thinks it’s because of my help with his homework.
I almost cried. It was the nicest thing anyone said to me all day.
Well, it looks like I may have caught whatever their mom had, however, I don’t think I got it quite as bad. I have been running a low grade fever that is manageable with ibuprofen. It will be interesting to hear if the kids have caught it - I haven’t seen or heard from them since Friday.
Today is the first day since I started this job that I have really considered calling their mom and telling her that I just won’t make it today. I’m so exhausted, I have a huge exam tomorrow, and I’m just not feeling up to par. But I already am taking off Friday this week for fall break, and it just wouldn’t feel right not being there today.
I hope I can make it.
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Thank you! I’ve been taking airborne and multi vitamins, and I also eat yogurt daily so it looks like I’m on the right track there! But I’ve never heard of that grape juice.stomach bug thing so I’ll have to get it on that and hope that my husband doesn’t drink it all in one sitting :)